Life is about happiness. Happiness does not lie anywhere. It is within us. We must feel it.
If we try to search it outside we will not succeed. If we will try to find it in things then it will be temporary.
True happiness lies in being at the present moment.
We often find that our mood is not right and at the same time we are also not feeling well. We try to find the reason for this and ponder over the situation. But often we are unable to point out the exact reason for this.
Then we either start watching TV or talk to someone on the phone or become active on social media or drink tea or in the same way get busy in some other activity. By doing so, our attention shifts to another place and after some time we find that our mood has changed.
Sister Shivani says that this is not the right way of changing the mood. By doing this, we have shifted our attention to another place, but we have not removed the cause of our bad mood. She says that right way is to change the thought which had made our feeling or mood to go bad. So whenever you find that you are not feeling well, then stop and think carefully what you were thinking till some time before now.
Reflection of what we were thinking affects our mood and accordingly our mood swings and we start feeling good or bad. If we carefully consider what we were thinking, we would gradually start to understand that whatever we felt, whether good or bad, was all due to our thoughts.
This leads to conclusion that if we want to change our mood, we can do so by changing our thoughts. In this way, if the mind changes by changing thoughts, then if we can maintain that our thoughts are always good, then the mood will always be good.
So why don't we always take care of our thoughts and bring good and positive thoughts only in our mind. This will automatically create good feelings within us and will bring positivity in our action also.
If we search the term “Serenity Prayer” in Google, we will find the result as under-
"God, grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change; COURAGE to change the things I can; and WISDOM to know the difference".
We find that it has three parts – In the first part we ask God to grant us the power to accept those things we cannot change. In the second part we seek courage to change those things we can change. In the third part we seek wisdom to know the difference between these two.
There is no doubt that if we work according to this, then the journey of our life will become very easy. But in reality we often behave just opposite to this. We try to change the things which are not at all possible for us to change. In contrast we do nothing where it is possible for us to change something. Moreover, we often do not understand and remain in a confused state as to what should be changed and what should not.
If we observe closely then we will find that in it there is a formula of getting happiness and satisfaction in life. If we understand it properly and work according to it, then the path to success, as well as happiness, both would come easily to our way.
Think. You will definitely feel the same. …..
Based on my experiences in life, I have felt that in life we don't get things in isolation but we get them in a packaged form, containing a package of many other things also, algonwtih the main thing; AND if we want to be happy and satisfied in life; THEN we are required to not only accept each of them but love them also. There is no other way to feel the happy experience in life.
We can understand this better by examples. If we decide to marry and have a spouse in life, then generally we choose him/her by looking at some of their attributes such as his/her behavior, some habits etc. On that basis we choose them as our spouse. But after passing of some time we find that they have some other habits also, which we do not like and we want him/her to change such habits. We all know that changing habits is a big job and generally people fail at this. This results in conflict between the spouses and each of them feel that the love between them is diminishing.
So, if we want happiness in our life, then we have to accept our spouse as they are, along with all their other habits. Because it is not possible that we like him/her due to one or some of their habits and expect that they change the rest as we desired. At the same time, we have to accept and like all of their relatives as well whether we like them or not. It is also not possible that we accept some of their relatives which we like and expect that he/she would leave their other relatives to whom we do not like.
In simple words, we have to accept our spouse as a whole package in his/her present form, with all of his/her thoughts, habits, behavior, good/bad qualities etc. as they are and love them happily too. If we expect any other remedy, then surely we will get disappointment in life. However, if they willingly decide to change any of their habits by their own, then it is OK.
Similarly, if we want to do business, then we will have to accept the problems of business, competition, profit and loss along with it. If we do a job, then we will have to follow the policies of the company and some one will definitely be our boss and we will have to obey him also. There will also be a chance of losing the job.
In this way we saw that it is not possible that there would be only good things in all the areas of our life and not unwanted thing. In ancient times also, in the ocean- churning event between Gods and Demons, poison was also released along with nectar. This is also the rule of real life. Here we generally get some bad things also alongwith our desired events.
After the ocean-churning there was God Shankar, who took the poison in his neck, but here we have to become Shankar in our life. We can do this by changing our attitude and way of thinking towards right direction. Then we will be accept the theory of package in real life.
Try this. It will definitely be nice. Life will be happy. This is my guarantee ……….
